Ask Me: What is with feeling so empty and no hope?



“Facing the abyss, the turmoil of loneliness, our response is self-compassion.”

Edith D Johnston PhD LPC


Not being heard; not being accepted; feeling all alone, creates a hollowness, an emptiness inside.  Not seeing results, or outcomes that matter leaves us hanging.  The experience can be confusion and pain from all the suffering, injustices, and chaos in the world.  Grief can be dominant in our lives because of the loss of loved ones, losses in the world, and loss of self-expression.  The void seems to be ever present.

Part of our experience is because of our sensitivities to the happenings in the world, the environment and to people around us.  We feel and love with intensity.  Our losses, grief, and pain are also very intense.  This can be for moments at a time or be a consistent undercurrent.

Having compassion for ourselves like we have for others is very important.  Nurturing our body, mind, and spirit is paramount.  Self-care needs to be part of our daily routine.  Self-care takes many forms.  Identifying what is self-care lets us consciously include it in our schedule.  Reaching out for support and conversations like we suggest for others is self-compassion.

It takes only a small amount of light to find a form to the void or see the ledge within the abyss.  We can acknowledge our need to fill the emptiness and connect.  Integrating all that we are in how see ourselves is a factor.  Expressing our talents and passions with definite results is another factor.  Self-compassion and expression gives us the ability to see and connect with light in the vast darkness.

One small action begins the motion that contains or morphs the void.  There is a spark of light, hope, comfort within reach.

What has been your experience?  How do you practice self-compassion?  Share in the comments.  Let’s connect.



  1. Good Morning, I am so glad I found this page. I don’t think I have self care ritual, my go to has always been cleaning or throwing things out, or writing. I stay away from therapy, because I am tired of being judged and asked to change. I couldn’t even begin to know what to change. Circumstances for sure.
    Creating a support system where I feel loved and comforted and supported hasn’t been easy. The dogged nature of just get happy, when one is trying so hard.
    I am trying in my house, which I hate.
    The message is always the same: Change, pick one thing, don’t be you.
    I am highly sensitive, and gifted and it sucks.

    • Hello Gailen,
      Change happens whether it is conscious or reactive. Self discovery to integrate the many facets of self and further understand who we are is where I like to begin. Understanding all that contributes to our identity – our characteristics – sensitivity, gifted, lots of ideas (the bio components); the experiences, values, beliefs, expectations (ours and others); the time and place in history; goals, desires; what works and does not work for us. The process for me involves, understanding and integrating, overcoming what we see as not working or have labeled as a liability and can be an asset; developing our dreams, talents and abilities; choosing how to express ourselves and connecting – with ourself, like minds, others in general and the big picture. It is a journey and an evolving being.

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