Connecting with Others Like Me – Thinking it Through

ponder circle picBeing unique and very different with difficulty of “fitting in” is a fact of being a multi-talent.  It has value to connect with others that have similarities in the way we think and the intensity or sensitivity of experiences.  The connection, even tentatively, allows us to let some of our guard down and know we “get” each other.  We can jump from idea to idea and delve in with passionate pursuit and it is accepted.  Making the effort to connect with others like us is like finding an oaring partner to help the boat on its journey.

Put your DeBono Thinking Hats on!

White Hat – What are the Facts?

Connecting with others like us has value.  Having a time and place to fully engage as ourselves meets a basic need.  There are others like us, we are not alone.  Finding others like us takes effort.  Others like us are fewer in number by definition of being a multi-talent.  Others like us can be found in our areas of special interests and talents.  Also, we can find others like us in organizations that cater/serve our unique characteristics.

What effort and in what manner are you finding others like you?

Red Hat – Emotionally

Connecting with others like us can be energizing and/or draining.  The experience of not being the odd one out can be comforting and a relief.

We can also experience discomfort by comparing ourselves and doubting our abilities.  The idea we are not good enough or are not the exception can be disconcerting.  Yes we are complicated.

What emotions have you acknowledge in connecting with others like you?

Black Hat – Caution, serious, and weaknesses

Cautions arise when we begin to explore various avenues to connect with others like us.  It is something we want, yet many challenge our introvert tendencies or our walls of protection.  We wonder if it is worth the effort and yet without trying we do not know.  We are also cautious questioning will we really be understood?  There are no absolutes, but within parameter of commonalties connections can be made.

What cautions do you exhibit in connecting with like minds?

Yellow Hat – Optimistic, positive

What fun; to be able to express ourselves with exuberance; to be able to share humor that has many times not related.  Connecting with others like us creates an uncommon social opportunity.  It also creates the opportunity for singular focus and intense exploration.  What a joy to be free to be.

What about connecting with others of like mind is positive for you?

Green Hat- Abundance, growth, creativity

Connecting with others like us stimulates our thinking and creativity.  It provides opportunity for growth interpersonally and intrapersonally.

Connecting with others like us develops a greater understanding and ability to manage our idiosyncrasies.  There is a place of exchange and ‘safe’ sounding board.

In what ways does connecting with others like you offer growth?

Blue Hat – Control, organization, collaboration of all the hats

Connecting with others like us can be scary and yet alleviate separation.  It stimulates growth, new ideas, greater depth, pure fun, and community.  Connecting with others like us fulfills the two way street of our humanity.

What is your next step in beginning or continuing to connections with others like you?

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