Learning to Love Yourself

feather pic 2The void is ever present.  The abyss can be just steps away.  The intensity of our emotions as multi-talents lends our experience to one of extreme and overwhelm.  Our self-doubt, our lack of confidence, our perspective we are not good enough and will be found out are all part of the intensity with which we experience life.  Learning to love ourselves is the basic tool for managing the intensity of our lives.

To learn to love ourselves starts with understanding who we are, our genetics, our neuro- wiring, our values, our beliefs, and our integration of family, culture, and environment.  With understanding then we can accept that our intelligence(s), our intensities, our overexcitabilities, our rapid thoughts, our sensitivities, our high energy are marvelous characteristics and our strengths.

Recognizing our characteristics and our talents give us the choice on our actions, reactions, and interactions.  We can express ourselves effectively to produce our desired outcomes.  We can express without aiming for perfection.  We can be the imperfect and delightful persons we are.    We can love all our idiosyncrasies and enjoy expressing ourselves.

To love ourselves we need to assess our self-talk.  We need to ask if what we are telling ourselves is true.  We need to use the understanding we have reached of who we are and adjust the self-talk accordingly.  We need to honor our talents, characteristics, our needs, our responsibilities, and our being by loving ourselves and sharing with the world.

Look in a mirror with the eyes open and the filters cleared.  You are a naturally loveable individual as you are.  Experience your joy of being by doing what expresses who you are with compassion, integrity and honor.  Have fun! Play! Smile! Sing! Dance! Fall down and get back up! Learn something new! Explore! Learn to Love YOU!

How do you show the love for yourself?

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  1. Thank you Edith. Especially as we walk through the stages of our life. So important to assess whether our habits, thoughts, practices support our well-being today as they may have 20 or 30 years ago.

  2. Thank you for sharing this, Edith. I must say the positive self-talk comes through much more clearly when it no longer has to fight through the web of narcissism and negativity of people I’m no longer forced to associate with, now that I’m retired.

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