Developing Balance

Our minds race.  Our lives are oh so busy.  Balancing our various responsibilities, stress, play, desires, meaning, and quiet times is key to developing ourselves.  Let’s explore ways to juggle the many facets of life and continue to develop our talents and abilities for expression.

Let’s start with racing minds.  This creates challenges in focusing, paying attention, getting the ideas out, connecting the thoughts, holding still, interacting, and sleeping.   Becoming aware of the racing thoughts is an initial step.  Being able to become the observer of the thoughts is another step.

There are different methods to help capture and release the thoughts.

You can have an idea book – some form of notebook hardcopy or electronic to capture all your various ideas by writing them down. You can just make a list or leave a page for each broad idea and as other ideas come, that are related, add them to the same page.  You can create visuals, drawings, versus words for your ideas. You can dictate the ideas into a recorder.   This is capturing the ideas so that you can then let the thoughts go and not be concerned about losing them.

Another balancing technique is to quiet the mind.  The simplest is to watch your breath.  Breathe in and out and watch, feel the breath come in through the nose and down into the lungs.  Breathe out, watching the lungs deflate and the exhale leave through the nose and or mouth.  Simply focus on your breathing.  Another is to visually focus on a specific object and observe it with great detail.  Without interacting directly with the point or object explore it, connect with it, learn so that you could describe it fully.  Other tools include a variety of meditation formats. One is watching your thoughts and returning to a central quiet.  Let each thought come and go with the point of reference a quiet, blank slate in your mind.

How do you balance your racing mind?

What about your schedules – you want to do so many things and you can do so many things.  Are you saying no to others and to yourself?  Deciding what tasks, activities, projects have the greatest value you to you is a starting point.  Determine what your values are, what your focus is for life at the moment, prioritize activities based on your values and current life needs.  Obvious ones that are often mentioned are family and work.  You also need to look at what is important for you to do, what can be delegated or shifted, what can be left undone, or what does not fit with your priorities and say no.  Blocking time for yourself, doing specific activities (or non-activity) is part of balance.

What do your schedules look like?  What roles do you play?

In balancing, it is critical to rejuvenate or re-energize.  We talked about planning it in your schedule.  Do you do something daily? This may be quiet time, relaxing, “doing nothing” or it may be total emersion in a specific interest.  What do you do, that you consider down time or energizing?  It can be something like running, with a balance between should, obsession, and pure pleasure.  What do you have in your routine that allows you to explore your internal workings, muse on the meaning of life, or gather your thoughts for decision-making?  Do you do things for pure joy and pleasure – let the kid inside come out and play? Do you have interactions with others that are tantalizing, stimulating?  Do you give yourself time to veg – back to the running, crocheting, reading, or music – whatever?

What rejuvenates or revitalizes YOU?

Bring balance to the chaos of life as a multi-talented individual.  Remember it is your own unique balance formula.  However, define your chaos, become aware, and make a conscious choice to acquire balance.

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