They just don’t seem to get it. How can they not see the solution? It is so obvious. What do they mean that does not make any sense? That is how you get from point A to point E (there is no or no need for B, C, or D).
Do you run into this kind of situation at home, school, or work? How do you get beyond the frustration? How do you achieve communication?
Many times it is impossible to explain how we come to a conclusion or get the answer. It is just there. However, to communicate and to get others involved we need to draw the picture out so there is greater understanding. This will take skill development on our part. Why bother? Because in order for us to move forward with our ideas, learn additional new things, and create the solutions we see, we need others to understand us and be part of the process.
Understanding the different perspectives of a the “answer” is to look at it from the different roles you play (worker, co-worker, boss, spouse, community member, son/daughter, leader, follower, parent, etc.); your values – is it in agreement, is it the priority value at this time; your points of view – emotional, logical, factual, neutral, cautious, expansive. What about such factors as culture and timing?
With your abilities can you bring more information to the table? Can you devise means to gather and present more information? Can you break the “answer” into smaller pieces or give it greater vision? Can you present it verbally, visually, with music or numbers that will increase the meaning? What demonstration can you provide to take the concept from A to E?
We each have different learning styles and communication styles. Are you aware of the different kinds and can you present in each style?
You have abilities. People not understanding you – or “getting” you is not an excuse for not communicating. You have the ability to build the bridge and to cross it.
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